Laughs After Your Worst Day: The Outtakes

We take adultery very seriously. And we don’t think your pain is anything to laugh at. But part of encouraging you to believe that there is LIFE after your worst day, is to give you hope that you will laugh again. Hope and joy are also seriously powerful in overcoming and healing. It’s safe to say there’s not only life after your worst day, but laughs, too.

There can even be laughs between two women that you may think wouldn’t have this much fun being around each other.

Two women, including one who was the other woman, who have known the pain of infidelity (in different ways), and the joy in being redeemed. Two women that didn’t seek revenge; they found redemption instead….

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Former Adulteress and Once-Wounded Wife Answer Your Questions

Coming soon: All-New Videos Featuring Former Adulteress Rebecca Halton, and Once-Wounded Wife Shelley Hendrix

In a brand-new series of videos (coming soon), Team Redeemed Co-Captains Rebecca Halton and Shelley Hendrix talk candidly with each other, about the impact adultery had on each of their lives.  Real, and sometimes raw, they tackle topics and questions people ask them about the most.

In the meantime, watch the preview below, and click here to learn more and begin reading stories that give hope for “life after your worst day”! 

 


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Shelley Hendrix is a wife, mother, Bible teacher, speaker, author, and television talk show host –but more important than any role she fills, she is most grateful to be a child of God, learning to live out of who God says she is.

Shelley has been referred to as the “strongest female communicator on the topic of grace in our generation.” She also knows the pain of adultery.  Shelley is honored to now be married to Stephen Hendrix.

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Rebecca Halton is an author, speaker, encourager, and “redeemed adulteress”.  People are often surprised by the frankness and freedom with which she shares about her redemption.

Rebecca is eager to help others avoid adultery, or find the forgiveness and healing she has.

What Really Happened When He Said He Was Leaving Her

Being an adulteress was one of the last things I ever expected.  I never expected how far I would let things go.  I never expected he would eventually want to leave his wife.  Despite how I had idealized what that day would be like, when it actually happened it was far from what I envisioned:

The last thing I felt was joy – and the first thing I thought was something I can’t print here.  (Let’s just say I wasn’t as elated and relieved as I thought I would be.)

That’s the veneer of adultery.  It looks like one experience, when the reality is quite different.  It’s like expecting good business from a known con artist, or good health from junk food.  And no matter how alluring it seems, I have yet to meet an adulteress who hasn’t traveled a hard road.  Yes, I’ll even say a road she’s choosing to be on.

Because as much as I can compassionately relate to current “other women,” my belief in taking personal responsibility wasn’t altered by my own experience.  If anything, my experience only affirmed it.

Just like it was the same for the adulteress in John 8.  Jesus compassionately defended her against the Pharisees – but he also told her to leave her life of sin.  He didn’t condone her life choices, because he knew what they meant for her.  He knew that to keep sinning wasn’t in her best interest, too.

If it had just been about getting her back in legalistic line, I dare say he would have handed her over to the Pharisees.  But that’s not God’s heart!  If you’re currently in an adulterous relationship, then you need to know that the need to end it is not because God just wants to ruin your life.

It’s because He knows a life like that will ruin you. 

Just like it had begun to ruin me.  Like any relationship, the famous “honeymoon phase” eventually ended.  But like a drug addict, I was already emotionally h

When Shelley’s Biggest Fear Came True

When I walked down the aisle in my home church on October 10, 1992, at about half past five o’clock, I never imagined that less than seven years and two children later, the man waiting for me at the end of that aisle would no longer be my husband. Never.

That fall day in 1992 was picture perfect. Our friendship and marriage seemed like it had everything going for it. Although we were both young, the pastor who married us and walked through our premarital counseling with us stated, “You two are more prepared for marriage than many 30-somethings I know.” As a young bride-to-be I paid attention to important indicators, like how he treated his mother, and managed money. I even made sure I didn’t have unrealistic expectations for our life, once we walked back up that aisle together as man and wife.

By the end of 1998, though, I began to suspect that something was not right between us. Our marriage in general was one of high highs and low lows. I consoled myself time and again with the thought that “he might do THIS, but he would NEVER do THAT.” I felt guilty for allowing myself to even wonder if he was being unfaithful. The worst my mind could imagine was that perhaps an inappropriate friendship had formed. And if it had, I wanted to nip it in the bud before my biggest fear came true.

On January 1, 1999, my husband said words I will never forget: “We are both good people, but I don’t believe we are good together.” The next few months were a nightmare, as I agonized over this relationship and tried with all my might to salvage it—whatever it took. Although his relationship with another woman did not come into the light until mid-March that year, I knew something was going on. My then-husband moved in and out of our home 3 times in those 3 months, before finalizing his decision to leave permanently on April 1.

We have two daughters, who were at that time 4 and 2 years old. My 4-year-old took it the hardest, and said so many times that I lost count: “Mommy, tell me again why my daddy doesn’t love you and doesn’t want to live with me?” How does a mother look into the innocent eyes of her 4-year-old child and answer this question?

My life—as I knew it—was over.
I felt hopeless. I felt violated.

I felt damaged. I felt like dying.

At that point, I had NO idea how much good God had in store for my children, for me personally, and for our future together. I learned something powerful in that season in my life: God’s ability to be good to us is never contingent upon someone else or what they do. I had NO idea how much my God would redeem me, my story, my daughters, and our lives in the way He can redeem anyone who wants a second chance!


shelley headshotShelley Hendrix is wife to her best friend, mother, Bible teacher, speaker, author, and television talk show host — but more important than any role she fills, she is most grateful to be a child of God, learning to live out of who God says she is.

Click here to learn more about Shelley, who is also the founder of Church 4 Chicks and the author of Why Can’t We Just Get Along?